Emotional Intelligence Training – Trainers and Coaches Need It Too!

Emotional Intelligence Training and coaching is often reserved for managers and leaders. Why?

Largely because managers and leaders are responsible for, and expected to, enable and engage team members to perform at, or near, their best each and every day. As you may know, this can be quite a challenge, even when the Manager or leader is technically brilliant!

But one audience overlooked all too easily is Emotional Intelligence Training for in-house Trainers and Coaches. The very people who are charged and trusted with educating, equipping and enabling your employees to undertake their role effectively, and connect with your customers, internal and external, in a professional manner.

HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?

Have you ever participated in a training course, perhaps a management training course or team building course where the person at the front of the room, hoping for your attention and involvement, knew the process, systems or procedures inside-out, upside-down and back to front, but didn’t perhaps appear to enable your learning?

Instead, s/he was more ‘spouting information’ and getting through their course syllabus rather than stepping in to your world and beginning the learning journey from where you were, rather than expecting you to join them where they thought you were? How Frustrating is that? VERY!

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE PRESENTING…DOESN’T MEAN ANYONE IS LEARNING

An audience of teachers recently didn’t take too kindly to my comment that ‘Just because you are teaching, it doesn’t necessarily mean your students are learning‘. I doubt I’ll be invited back, but, my comment did strike a chord with the HR Manager at the school who told me that she had never thought about the quality of learning in this way before. After all, where do teachers, busy managers, under pressure HR and Training team members get the chance to plan ahead? Plan ahead to focus on ‘What does my audience need and value most?’ rather than ‘What do I think I should tell them?’ The latter approach lacks empathy, and people do tend to enjoy a healthy dose of empathy (bedside manner) when they’re not feeling comfortable, competent or confident about learning something new.

BUT WHY IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TRAINING SO IMPORTANT AND VALUABLE FOR YOUR ORGANISATION’S TRAINING TEAM AND HR PARTNERS?

Emotional Intelligence Training can help you and your colleagues to learn some proven, easy to use ‘soft skills’ that can deliver ‘hard’ results, and it doesn’t matter whether you are a private, public or charitable organisation. These Emotional Intelligence skills and competencies are as relevant and effective in virtually any environment.

Some of the specific benefits of Emotional Intelligence Training for Trainers include:

  1. How to develop empathy to engage learners (including reluctant learners) in their self-development. Promoting more personal ownership of performance is rarely achieved by imposing – it’s achieved by collaborating.
  2. Developing emotional resilience and greater ability to bounce back from learning ‘failures’ more quickly and easily. Everybody will fail at some point and helping colleagues recover more quickly and get back on track is very powerful.
  3. Boosting collaboration in the learning environment through improved facilitation competence rather than the ‘Chalk and Talk‘ approach. Remember, just because you are presenting does not mean that your audience members are learning!
  4. Promoting the opportunity to ‘fail safely’ in a genuinely supportive learning environment can do wonders for self-confidence in a learner. This is rarely achieved if the learner believes that the Trainer or Coach has more focus on getting through their content, rather than supporting them.
  5. Think of it this way. You’re not well and you visit your local doctor’s surgery for an appointment. You have the choice of an appointment with one of two doctors. Both are technically proficient, suitably qualified and with lots of experience.Doctor 1’s focus is on ‘processing you‘. To obtain the relevant information and prescribe some form of treatment.

    Doctor 2’s focus is on ‘understanding you‘. To obtain the relevant information and prescribe some form of treatment having understood where you’re at and what your outcome is. The bedside manner is authentic and empathic. Their communication, collaborative.

Who would you choose to treat you? Now relate your decision to your in-house training, coaching and HR team. External partners too. The same principle applies. Are your employees really gaining the best possible benefit from your investment in their training, whether it be emotional intelligence training, management training, customer service training or technical training of some kind?